The Simple Way To Get Fired

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Careers in Motion - Blog July 14 THe simple way to get fired

I don’t know about you, but I have worked in an environment where the boss was a hot head. It created a toxic work place where the staff around him had to walk on egg shells depending on his mood. Some days he was jovial and fun, other days angry and condescending. It was very stressful. Needless to say, I did not thrive in that workplace.

Interacting with others requires self-regulation also called self-control. This is defined as the ability to control one’s emotions, desires, and behaviors in order to reach a positive outcome. It is an important skill not only at work, but in your personal life as well.

Self-regulation is sometimes difficult because we hear that it is important to ‘express how you feel’. My son was recently told just that. He was working with an energy healer who told him his throat chakra was tight so his homework is to express his feelings. While this may be partially true, the art to finding the balance between expressing one’s feelings and avoiding unnecessary outbursts is self-regulation. It is the way in which the emotions are expressed that determines if it results in positive or negative outcomes.

Self-control builds on your self-awareness. As you tune in to your emotions, you develop your effectiveness in the workplace and in your personal life. When you develop the ability to check your emotions and rein them in before you head in the wrong direction, it keeps you flexible and allows you to choose positively and productively how to react to different situations changing the outcome you experience.

When you don’t stop to think about your feelings, including how they are influencing your behaviours, you set yourself up to be a victim of your situation, and yes, possibly get yourself fired. You are not taking control of your circumstances and you will move through your day reacting to your feelings likely experiencing results you are not wanting to have. You will be the one creating a toxic environment and no one wants to be in a situation like that.

How can you control your emotions?

Trust. Start trusting what is happening. When you let go of trying to control your circumstances and trusting the path that is laid before you, you tend to allow what is instead of exerting a lot of effort making it hard trying to change it. Adopt a mindset of ease and flow and trusting all will work out as it should. Even if you are experiencing results you think you don’t want, it is likely better for you in the end. Have you ever thought you wanted one thing, didn’t get it, and got something else which was better for you anyway? And when someone around you makes a mistake, trust that it will all work out.

Reduce self-talk. Every time you have a thought, it triggers reactions felt throughout your body. There is a strong relationship between what you think and how you feel, both physically and emotionally. It’s impossible to try to track every single thought you have to see if it is having a positive or negative influence on your emotional state. We all have an internal voice that affects our perception of things. When a rush of emotions comes over you, your thoughts turn the heat up or down. By learning to control your self-talk, you can keep yourself focused on the right things and manage your emotions more effectively.

Start to notice your emotions and choose to have a different response when it sends you down a road you don’t want to travel. It will increase your effectiveness as a leader in your career, your personal life and prevent you from getting fired.

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